Thursday 20 August 2015

Stealth Bare Back Sex

At all swinging events the official policy is that safe sex is encouraged.  This is great because people, especially new people, need to feel safe.  It is accepted that there is an undercurrent of those who like to go bareback.  Regardless of what one might think about that, it is something that you can live with provided they keep it to themselves.

My girlfriend and I were rudely awakened to the extent to the bareback sex crowd is becoming more pervasive.  One weekend when I was out of town, she decided to be brave and go to a swing club by herself as a single woman.  She was having a good time until she went to play with a couple.  They seemed like a respectable couple, especially since he was even in the Canadian military. A lot of stuff started happening and it all seemed like fun until she realized that he had been having sex with her from behind without a condom.

Is this the new default behaviour?  These unfortunate events tarnish all swingers with a bad name.  It takes a lot of courage to go to a swinging event alone as a single woman.   When your worst fear is realized on the first night, it is going to put a damper on future plans.  If stories like this keep floating around, it is going to continue to be rare for single woman to go to these events, even if they get in for a very low price.  On the flip side, if those guys see more stories about their behaviour on the Internet, things may change.

A sign of a good time?