Privacy and the kinky lifestyle

It's all about risk.  There are people who put their sexy pics with their face on the Internet and have no regrets.  Others ask a girlfriend in a monogamous relationship to do something kinky and a few months after they break up, everyone seems to know about it.  It is not always fair but it is reality.

Still there are degrees of risk.  If you accept that you are kinky, then there is always a small degree of risk no matter what you do.  However, your choice of actions do count and can have a dramatic impact on that risk.

A lot of the risk is caused by the behaviour of other people.  You can have certain expectations about how they should behave but you have to accept the risk of disappointment.  Your choices should reflect the possible bad choices of others.  Who you take risks with counts.

Essentially, it is all about how easy you are recognized and how often you are visible.  If you are only seen by a few people and your visual appearance is dramatically different, then the odds are that you could enjoy a kinky life style for twenty years with no repercussions.   If you post a large number of pictures associated with your name on multiple sites showing you having sex with multiple partners, it is just a matter of months until your boss calls you into an office for a private chat.  Between the two extremes, there are many risk factors that you have a lot of control over with a bit of discipline. You can certainly control the following:

1. Use a scene name consistently.  Most people are outed by other people knowing your legal name.
2. Avoid conflict.  Most people are outed by people who are mad at them.
3. Minimize on going to large local events where you may run into someone you know.  If you do, go to ones in different cities.
4. Avoid getting your picture taken. You never know where it will turn up.
5. If you do have your picture taken, avoid having a lot of them in a profile associated with yourself.

Nothing is certain in this life.  Still, if you follow these five rules, your kinky other life should not cause problems in your daily life.  

Two is the least common number and seven the most.  What are the risks?